Grief is mean spirited. It creeps up on you when are not looking and sits on your chest like an elephant – laughing.
When people grieve, the landscape of their relationships change. Some people fall away naturally because they don’t know what to say – so they stop talking altogether. When they are not talking, the relationship fades. Sometimes new relationships are formed out of a bond that only those that are hurting can form. Some relationships remain but they are forever changed because the one who is hurting is forever changed.
Right after Beth died, I told David I wanted a divorce. I didn’t wanna go through what Matt was going through and I didn’t want him to either. He was disinclined to acquiesce to my request.